The Path to Authenticity: Self-Awareness and Deliberate Steps in Relationships
In our last blog, The Power of Authenticity in Relationships, we talked about being yourself. We also recognize how some people might not feel comfortable be themselves around others. This time, we will look at what hinders authenticity in relationships.
Authentic relationships can be hindered by fear of criticism, rejection, societal norms, and people-pleasing. Some of us prioritize the approval and happiness of others over our own needs and desires. We often take extensive measures to evade conflict, seek validation, and fulfill others’ wishes, occasionally at the cost of our own authenticity and well-being.
Let’s inspect by asking ourselves these questions…
Are you hiding your true feelings? People who try to please others often hide their genuine emotions and opinions to avoid conflict or disapproval, which leads to a lack of authenticity..
Are you neglecting your own desires and needs to please others? Constantly putting others first can cause you to neglect your own desires and true self-expression..
Do you fear of rejection? Some people have a fear of rejection or abandonment, causing them to conform to others’ expectations rather than staying true to themselves.
Do you have superficial connections with others? Genuine connections are essential for authentic relationships, but people-pleasing can lead to superficial interactions based on a desire for approval..
Do you rely on validation from others? Relying on external validation hinders self-validation and self-esteem, making it difficult to authentically express who you are.
Do your relationships support your values? Constantly seeking to please others can lead to being in relationships that aren’t aligned with your values or interests.
Becoming more authentic in relationships is a journey that requires self-awareness and deliberate steps. Here are some suggestions to address the challenges we just discussed:
Self-Awareness: Start by reflecting on your own values, desires, and needs. Understand what truly matters to you and what you want from your relationships.
Honest Self-Expression: Practice expressing your thoughts and feelings honestly. Start with small steps and gradually work your way up to more significant conversations.
Vulnerability: Overcoming the fear of rejection involves being vulnerable. Remember that vulnerability can lead to deeper connections. Take calculated risks in sharing your true self with people you trust.
Deeper Connections: Focus on cultivating deeper connections with a select few rather than superficial connections with many. Quality often surpasses quantity in relationships.
Internal Validation: Work on building your self-esteem and internal validation. Learn to recognize your worth independent of external validation from others.
Shared Values: Seek individuals who align more closely with your core beliefs and values. While differences can be enriching, shared values can provide a more solid foundation for authenticity in relationships.
Boundaries: Set clear boundaries to protect your own needs and well-being. This ensures that you don’t neglect your desires and needs in favor of others.
Self-Care: Prioritize self-care to maintain your physical and emotional well-being. When you take care of yourself, you are better equipped to be authentic in your relationships.
Therapy or Counseling: Consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor if you find it challenging to overcome certain barriers to authenticity.
Patience and Practice: Authenticity is a skill that can be developed over time. Be patient with yourself and recognize that it’s okay to make mistakes along the way.
Remember that authenticity is a journey, and it’s about progress, not perfection. By gradually working on these aspects, you can become more authentic in your relationships and build deeper, more fulfilling connections with others.
